Head Cold: Metaphysical or a Virus?

From the very beginning I felt the head coldwas related to the funeral. Our son’s father-in-law, Don, had passed, a big loss to a close knitfamily. We left early for the Jewish memorial services, then went to the house as prescribed. At the burial site, I hugged those whose loss was deep, holding on tight as I felt the sobs run through the body. At the house, I listened to various people talking about loss, their relationship to Don, I listened to Don’s son talk about his dad, a close member of the family talking about life, families,  a hospital volunteer who knew Don and had also lost her own husband, my daughter-in-law who recounted events in the last week. Our grandsons were part of the memorial program and did a beautiful job. Yet I knew the grief was there. read...

Relationship Advice: Give Up the Need to be Right

How many arguments have occurred with your spouse or significant other because each of you wanted to be right? If neither of you gave relented, how did it end? You didn’t speak to each other? You thought the other was an idiot or stubborn or just plain wrong? Did you ever wonder what in the world you saw in them in the first place? That maybe you made a big mistake here? Think I’ve experienced any of that? You bet I have. I fought tooth and nail and got really mad. You see, I had to be right. For me, it was a matter of life and death. If I was wrong, I would die. In my warped thinking, I would have been devalued in my own eyes and I believed that my husband would think less of me as well. I could not chance that. read...

Mindful Meditation

Where do you spend most of your time? In the past, present or future? When we spend our time in either the past or future, we miss the present. Did you know that our mind can’t think about the present? Our mind can only think about the past or the future so that’s how it keeps us from the present. In order to be in the present, we must learn to still the mind so that we can observe and enjoy the present moment. Mindfulness meditation is a great technique to learn the art of being mindful. Take 15 minutes to walk what normally takes you 30 seconds to walk. You want to do this barefoot. If you do this outside, forget about what others may say or think. This is for you. read...