Have you ever stopped to think about this? The difference between being sad and feeling sad? You may say there is no difference. But I believe you are wrong. What brought all this up? I see posts where people respond to something tragic with “I am sad” or “This makes me sad” and we accept that so easily.
We don’t stop to think of the word “being”. Being means “the nature or essence of a person” according to Wikipedia. The free on-line dictionary says it’s “The state or quality of having existence”.
Feeling is an emotion. The definition of feeling is “an emotional state or reaction”. Emotions normally only last 90 seconds unless we feed them to make them last longer. Have you ever been angry at someone and the more you think about it, the angrier you get? You know what I’m talking about.
Words spoken or in thought are very powerful. If one accepts that situations cause us to “be sad”, “be angry”, be whatever, then it becomes a state of being. Yet if we just change those words to “I feel sad” or “that makes me feel sad”, it’s an entirely different thing. Because emotions don’t last long without being fed.
If we recognize this difference, we can be happy and still feel sad over a situation. What chance is there to be happy if we choose to be sad?
It’s a distinction I think worth exploring. Watch what you say or think. See what you automatically think.
Are you accepting uncomfortable feelings for a short-term or the long-term? How do you automatically react to sad or tragic events?