I work on watching my thoughts most of the time, especially judgments. I find it interesting that Wikepedia defines Judgment as the evaluation of evidence to make a decision. My husband, Ron, and I had gone to a party a couple of months ago. I didn’t realize how much I had been watching my thoughts. I felt really good about it because I was catching myself on things.
Yet what startled me was the automatic judgments. Say what? Yes, I found myself doing these automatic judgments and I thought “whoa, where’d that come from?”. In light of the above definition, I was evaluating what evidence to make what kind of decision? I started paying more attention and sure enough, I caught a few more.
I have been so inculcated in judging for don’t ask how many years, and now I found many of my thoughts were just automatic judgments. And some were identical for different people that I didn’t even know! Interesting, yes? Byron Katie, who goes by Katie, talks about questioning our thoughts, those thoughts that cause us unhappiness, or pain or anger or any emotion that causes us to be out of balance. She does something she calls The Work.
Judgment starts the comparison module which then causes the “I’m not as good” or “I’m jealous” or “I’m better than they are” thoughts. Not thoughts that are conducive to feeling joy and happiness. Katie is always saying that there are no new thoughts, they are all recycled. That is what judgments are, recycled thoughts, along with many of the thoughts that flit through our heads on a daily basis. I was seeing it in action at the party. I found myself making judgments from a quick glance with people I didn’t know.
That means the judgments were being made on appearance or maybe on similarities to someone of whom they reminded me maybe. What was I seeing in others that was a reflection of me? It happens in a flash. I also recognized that an old fear of not being part of or accepted was involved. I reminded myself that validation comes from within. I decided to let it go and to be more open.
Once I made that decision, I began to enjoy myself and we both had a really nice time complete with laughter and great conversation.
Have you ever caught yourself standing apart in a crowd or a party? Have you recognized when you make judgments? What do you do when you realize it? Have you ever considered that there are no new thoughts?
Julieanne Case came from a left brained world, having been a computer programmer who worked on the Apollo missions and, due to circumstances orchestrated by God/Source/Universe, joined the growing ranks of the right brained world starting in 2001. She became an energy healing practitioner in 2004 and has studied various techniques. She is a Reconnective Healing Pracitioner, a Reconnective Artist, and a blogger. She assists you in reconnecting you to your original blueprint, your essence, your joy and your well being! ©Copyright Julieanne Case 2013