A friend recently reposted a blog by a mutual friend. Her comments caught my attention since it started out with “Stupid, dumb, lazy, retarded…” (What’s that tell you about me? ) I continued to read which lead to reading the blog about people who criticize others for not using words like their, there, they’re in the proper context or using its and it’s incorrectly. These criticizers appear to also assume the writer is stupid or lazy or lacks education when, in fact, it’s a function of the way their brain works. They are dyslexics and I’m married to one. (Which may explain to many old friends why he married me!)
I can’t profess to understand it. I don’t but I accept that others have dyslexia and reading and writing doesn’t come easy to them. For me, it’s a no brainer to read and write. Reading is a hobby for me. I couldn’t understand why Ron never read fiction. For him reading requires him to focus in order to read. When he does read, he wants it to count, to give him information that will improve him, or help him with his work or project or help him understand how something works.
Some of us have brains that function differently than others. Your brain decides how you see. The retina sees the world upside down and your brain turns it right side up. This explanation comes from The National Eye Institute.
What people forget, myself included, is that what we see with our eyes is truly forms, patterns, shapes, lines. The eye collects all the information and then sends all of it to the brain to process. The optic nerve carries all the information to the brain which then processes and tells us what we are “seeing” like a “cat” or a “dog” or a letter “A”.
Yet why do so many feel compelled to tell another that they are using words incorrectly or have grammatical errors or assume that the writer is dumb? Why do so many have this need to show another that they are wrong or less than? And less than what? Why is there a standard and who determined the standard? Why must one defend their writings by telling another “I do this because of my dyslexia.”
Our society teaches judgment. In talking to the Food Savant, we determined that what was important was the message, the content of what is written and not the misspellings or grammar mistakes. Yet I pointed out that humans are taught to judge and if the mistakes weren’t there, or the misspellings, then someone would focus on the lifestyle or the hair style or the clothing style or the belief system of the author to criticize.
We have choices. We can read for the message and ignore the misspellings or misuse of words. The message is the important thing. Judging the author muddies the waters. Maybe this could be your one daily act of kindness toward another. And the authors have a choice too. We can ignore the corrections and recognize that others opinions are just that. They are none of our business. Send them love and enjoy your day as you choose.