Everyone needs to stop right now disapproving of the way they look, especially the young people of today. No, you don’t need to look like the models or the photos in the magazines or like the movie stars. Truth? Most of the movie stars don’t look like their own movie star image without the hair, the makeup or the clothes. Maybe a couple do. Just like there are a few common people who look pretty spectacular whether they wear makeup or not.
There was a video on the internet that shows how they make the models look better than they are. The photos we see don’t represent real people at times.
Why do I say this? I had a major ah ha moment the other day. I was scanning in faded pictures. Once I got some color back in and I looked at them closely, I saw myself as a young woman. I was stunned by what I saw. I saw a gorgeous looking woman who had a lovely figure. I had spent my entire youth and most of my adult hating my face, my body. I felt ugly and I felt fat. And no one, no one could convince me otherwise.
I know why I felt that way. It doesn’t matter now. I know it came from my family and I bought it. The words parents use with their children are so very important. I never believed anyone when they said I was pretty or beautiful. I distrusted their motives for saying it. I was not taught to appreciate who and what I was. I was taught I wasn’t good enough. I know my sister and my cousin who are in the picture with me felt the same way, too. My sister didn’t even believe that was her in the picture.
I have spent years overcoming that. I cried the other night for the time I hated who and what I was. I cried the other night for all the times I hated what I saw when I looked in the mirror. I cried the other night for not appreciating how beautiful I was back then. I cried the other night for things I couldn’t go back and change. And I let it go.
Know one thing. You are perfect just as you are. You don’t need to compare yourself with anyone. You don’t need to do anything to change how you look. You don’t need to compare yourself to what the TV shows, movie or the ad companies show as the epitome of beauty is. It’s all fake. We are all beautiful in our own unique way. There is no one you need to emulate.
The best thing you need to do is to be yourself, your glorious self. Be the best you that you can be! And no one can do you better than you. No one can bring to the world what you can bring to the world.
In what areas have you not accepted yourself? What do you criticize about yourself? Where can you learn to love and accept yourself ?