My instant reaction was to feel hurt, this was someone important to me. Then I stopped and looked again. I reminded myself that this happened to bring up some old tired emotions that needed to be loved, accepted, allowed, forgiven, and released. I also saw this as a great reminder that even though the person is important to me, they were merely sharing their opinion of my actions and that’s all. They are not an expert online or offline on me. I am the only expert of me.
Once I looked at it this way, I realized that they had reacted this way and it merely reflected their state of mind in that moment and somehow I was being a mirror for them.
It was a great reminder for me to be alert, to recognize an opinion doesn’t represent truth. It was a reminder to feel love for that person who, for whatever reason, did not feel uplifted and chose to lash out. It also showed me how far I had come, how much I have grown.
It gave me an opportunity to return love to that person anyway, to be grateful for the experience that gave me so much in awareness, appreciation for my path and realization that I am transforming, just like a butterfly. For me, mindfulness was my best tool here.
Wouldn’t it be great if we had some way to set an alert similar to the tsunami system? Then we’d know we had an incoming wave of inexpert opinions heading our way! By the way, I’m still working on my PhD in me!
How do you react when you get an unexpected opinion blasted in your face or in an email? How do you defuse it?