Is Valentine’s Day a necessity? Have you ever asked yourself that question? What if the greeting card companies had never created Valentine’s Day? Would you still believe you were loved?
What does one day matter? Why do so many put so much stock into what happens, what they were given, where they went, and what they were surprised with? The majority of those are women. Why are the men not getting special flowers or golf passes or special beers or taken out to dinner?
If your mate is abusive the other 364 days a year but does everything right on Valentine’s day, is that good? Does that get them a pass for the next year of abuse?
What if your mate does something special every single day for you but doesn’t do anything different on Valentine’s Day, does that count?
Then everyone checks with everyone else to see if they got the same, more or less. And if we judge it not good enough because someone got more, are we to feel bad? And how do we treat our partner if they didn’t measure up to our idea of how we should be gifted?
And heaven forbid, you are alone on Valentine’s. Horrors of horrors. Really? I’ve had it both ways. I’ve been alone and I’ve had special dinners, or flowers or a gift. It used to be important to me. It was my validation that I was loved. And even when I had someone, I could make myself and them miserable if it didn’t measure up to my expectations.
I’m happy I have someone to share my life who makes me laugh, makes me crazy, makes me smile and makes me be grateful he is in my life doing special things for me everyday or when he thinks I might like something or wants to show he cares with a surprise. And I do that for him because it’s more fun to do things spontaneously.
What are we teaching our kids or the younger generation? It’s a marketing day for jewelers, florists, candy purveyors and other shops dedicated to romance and gifts. Are you supporting them on the other 364 days of the year?
Valentine’s Day is for retail. I like my homegrown organic love who surprises me when I least expect it. Sometimes I even get a rose from our own garden!
How much importance do you put on Valentine’s Day? Do you get upset if it doesn’t meet your expectations? Or are you happy you get to go out to eat with someone you care about?