Paying attention to your thoughts is so important. It affects your emotions, your feelings and what happens in your life. It’s the run away mind that can wreck much havoc in your life.
In addition, have you considered how you talk to your friends when you get together? Are you complaining about things that happen in your life that you don’t find pleasing? Are you aware when you do that, you are drawing more of that to you? Are you a captive of your own complaining? You are designing your own life whether you believe it or not.
I couldn’t meet up with a friend one day and I was so angry. I decided that I could talk to myself about what I had wanted to talk with her. As soon as I started talking to myself, I immediately saw what I was doing and stopped the conversation! I was all set to do the gripe and complain about parts of my life!
Yet I wouldn’t have seen it had we met and talked. I felt like I had been slapped in the face. Most of my conversations with people at networking or socially is pretty upbeat. There are a few people I feel comfortable enough to vent. Venting can be okay. It’s the griping, complaining, unhappy with this situation parts that are not okay.
What can be discussed? I could state the parts as areas I am working on to improve. I can look for the gift in those situations and maybe ask if they can see how this situation is a benefit to me that I’m not allowing myself to see.
Maybe what I need to do is ask for brainstorming sessions on areas that need improving. Or brainstorm on looking for the gold in every situation.
What do you do when things don’t go your way? When a disappointment happens, are you accepting of it? Do you see it as a blessing or do you choose to allow yourself to get upset over it?